Talking Ourselves Down

This came from a journal entry I found from Sept 27, 2010:

I have instances where I feel like life is so out of control that it will never be better. That my house will never be as perfect as I want. That those endless projects will never be completed, that life as I know it at its worst is how it always is and always will be. Do you ever have those moments too?

Sometimes those moments are reminiscent of a person on top of a building threatening to jump. Obviously there life feels so out of control, so unmanageable, that only ending it all seems to be the fix. Instead of it being a physical jump, a physical ending it all, the lack of control sets off dominoes that lead us to the conclusion that things will never be better.

If left unchecked, these feelings will lead to depression, anxiety, and hopelessness, but instead, let’s figure out a way to make the unmanageable seem, and ultimately become, manageable.

One way is to write down the stressers, take the emotion out of them, and look at them very rationally. Then we can set priorities, attainable goals, and a schedule to help us attain order to the chaos.

Much of life is simply making order of chaos. When you organize files, clean a closet, or simply clean out a drawer, chaos is organized and we feel settled and calm.

Nothing is too big to achieve, even though it might seem that way in the beginning. One important thing to remember is that perfection is an illusion; let go of it. Don’t be afraid of failure, but just be happy with your best. As you simply do your best with what you’ve got, you’ll be amazed at how much you really can accomplish.

Have a super-great weekend!